Performing a great blow job is a powerful way to connect with your partner and engage with your inner seductress. Mastering the art of the mighty blow job can feel intimidating- but it’s probably one of the best sex acts in your pleasure toolbox. Taking complete control of your oral experience can be empowering, but you may have sometimes wondered if your technique could improve. How do you give a good blow job anyway? Perhaps you’re in a rut and wondering how to spice up your oral repertoire for yourself and your partner. This was definitely not covered in high school sex ed. Everybody has different pleasure preferences, and everybody is different.  Unlimited factors come into play, but the secret to giving a fantastic blow job lies in a few simple ideas—communication, enthusiasm, and wetness. Below, I will outline a few universal tips and tricks for performing oral to ensure you’re confident, empowered, and always showing up with your A-game.

Consent, Arousal, and Enthusiasm

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So, let’s dive in!  No sex act should ever be performed without enthusiastic consent from both partners. Once consent has been established, it’s essential to initiate arousal by taking the time to caress, talk and excite each other physically and mentally. For an added spark, women may want to introduce a touch of arousal gel to heighten sensitivity. Arousal gels are a great addition to your pleasure toolbox. They can provide extra intensity, especially for women experiencing hormonal changes as they reach menopause. Arousal gel is to be used in conjunction with physical touch and not as a replacement for physical arousal and foreplay. Recent studies have proved that arousal gels, creams, and oils can boost oxygen and blood flow to the genitals, thus enhancing women’s sexual satisfaction and pleasure. A spot of arousal gel and stimulating yourself with your fingers or a toy signals to your partner that you value pleasure equality; the relationship is symbiotic, and you’re in for a mutually beneficial sexual experience! 

Communication, Eye Contact, and Watch your Teeth! 

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Communication can be a very erotic act on its own. Talking with your partner about what pleases you and asking questions should be an acceptable and encouraged part of your sexual experience. Try experimenting with varied techniques, pressure, and positions when performing oral. Introducing a flavored lubricant from hand to mouth can be practical, fun, and erotic. Using a flavored lubricant is a safe and delicious way to add something new to your oral experience. With a multitude of flavors, these lubricants are accessible for around $10.00 and are fun items to add to your oral repertoire. Next on the list is eye contact.  Looking into your partner’s eyes while sucking and licking can deeply arouse and increase intimacy and connection. Some studies show that intense eye contact can stimulate sexual arousal—people like feeling seen and understood. Intense or prolonged eye contact helps people feel confident and aroused a win-win situation!  Not only can eye contact heat things up, but it can also make sex more intimate, so make sure you take time to lock eyes, communicate and have fun. The last item in this category is to be gentle and watch the teeth and fingernails. Depending on the size of your partner, it can be challenging to position your mouth so your teeth aren’t rubbing the shaft. Do a mental and physical check-in and make sure when you take him fully in your mouth, the effort equates to pleasure, not discomfort. To recap these ideas- communicating and experimenting with your partner, integrating a flavored lubricant, engaging in eye contact, being gentle, and exercising body awareness.

Yummy Wetness

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When it comes to oral sex, the wetter, the better. Never underestimate the power of juicy wetness when it comes to a terrific blowjob. Make it wet, sloppy, and messy; an awesome blowjob should really ruin your makeup! There’s no shame in getting a little help from oral pleasure gels or mouth-watering mints. Oral pleasure gels come in various delicious flavors and help lubricate the mouth for a slicker and wetter ride. Oral lubricants are available in small tubes or pumps and are compact and easy to carry. With the average cost of around $12.00 per tube, you will find the return on investment worthwhile. Another option to increase oral lubrication is mouth-watering mints. These mints stimulate the salivary glands making your mouth naturally wetter. Typically mouth-watering mints come in a pack of three mints and can be used one at a time to extend the pleasure. As we learned earlier, communicate with your partner about what feels good.  Remember, apply a variety of movements, continuously changing the pressure and actions involved; using both hands, mouth, and throat takes a lot of wetness for all this action – all of this, you need proper lubrication. 

 

Deep-Throat? Yes, Please!

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Get out your cap and gown because once you’ve mastered the art of the deep-throat, you’ve officially graduated with a Master of Arts with an emphasis in pleasure. Nothing renders him more toe-curling satisfaction than a well-executed blow job with a tight, moaning, deep-throat finish! Deep-throating is an incredibly intense sensation for both parties and a great way to conclude your blowjob. The contractions/tightness of the throat encourages your partner to finish quicker, and not to mention that the experience is taste and mess-free as the semen goes directly down the throat; you’re not left with any mess or aftertaste. Depending on the size of your partner, deep-throating can be intimidating and uncomfortable if you’re not doing it right. Unfortunately, not everyone is born with the ability to deep-throat, it’s a skill that can be practiced and learned over time, and some can never get past the problematic gag reflex.   Oral numbing sprays help lessen the gag impulse and relax the throat muscles for a more comfortable experience so you take in every last inch. Numbing sprays come in a variety of flavors and discrete pumps. These are great returns on investment, with a price point of around $15.  Alternatively, there are throat-numbing mints that work in the same way, helping to alleviate the gag reflex by numbing and relaxing the back of the throat.

Giving a fantastic blow job can fill you with confidence and build a bond between you and your partner. With excellent communication at the forefront of this experience, you will create excitement,  and feel empowered by harnessing that inner sex goddess, and discover new pleasures together. Utilizing lubricants and topicals to increase arousal, enhance wetness, and relax the throat can make the experience more exciting and pleasurable. Have fun, and create a safe, open communication and experimentation space for each other. Remember, safety has to be considered with any sex act, especially when deep-throating, as it comes with a high risk of catching an STI. Like with any sex, condoms should be worn when deep-throating new partners. Always ensure you’re taking regular sexual health tests.